Where Do You Stand With Your In-Laws?
Apr 13, 2010 | Posted by bryan | 0 Comments
Happy Wife, Happy Life
Mother-in-law jokes have become cliché. It is common hear an insult hurled her way by comedians, sitcom characters and email forwards. Why the animosity? Is it as bad as it is made out to be, or is this harmless entertainment for the masses? Well, it depends on who you ask. After all, there is most likely a seed of truth in the stereotypical relationship with the in laws.
Mother-in-laws typically bear the brunt of this verbal abuse. The jokes, the snide comments and overall disdain seem to be just part of marriage in the eyes of some. In reality, though, your mother-in-law can be your best ally. If you stand on her good side, you are positioning yourself for a strong and healthy relationship with the entire family, as other members tend to take their cue from the matronly figures in the family.
It is always fairly obvious where you stand with you mother-in-law. Do you get favorable treatment or is hardly a word of kindness uttered your way? Strive to mend any differences you may have with her. Of course, there are limits. If she is just bitter by nature, it may be best to cut your losses and only deal with those family members you actually have a shot at building a relationship with. If you put too much pressure on any relationship, you will only add to the strain and the problem.
Staying right with your father-in-law is also a great strategy for a happy home life. Not only can he help you with any mother-in-law problems, but he is an integral part of the family. His respect is worth any extra effort you must exert to gain it. Some father-in-laws are very easy to read. You know exactly where you stand. For others, it may take some time to determine his true feelings. Be true to yourself and your spouse and foster a loving relationship with all in your family.
Your in-laws don’t stop with your spouse’s parents. You may also have to contend with your partner’s siblings. They are often a great source of information. They will let you know what your mother-in-law and father-in-law are thinking. Having a great relationship with the ones your spouse cherishes will put you on everybody’s good side.
Always know where you stand in the family. Act accordingly. If there is tension in the relationship with any in-law, do not do anything to exacerbate it. Repair it if possible. If there is no chance of a truce, remain respectful. Adding insult to injury will not get you anywhere but in the dog house. Remember, this is your spouse’s family, not a bunch of strangers you won’t be seeing again. Take the high road and always aim to walk on the good side of those in your family.