First Date Tips To Get You Laid
Apr 7, 2010 | Posted by bryan | 0 Comments
Tips That Will Get You Laid
Okay, now first off, you need to realize that sex on a first date isn’t always a great idea. It’s the wild card in the deck. Things might come to a point where you really enjoy each others company and are attracted to each other sexually, and it seems like a good idea. If that’s the case, you’ll both know. But… that can backfire in a number of different ways. She may wake up feeling used or may feel really awkward about it the next day.
There may also be societal pressures or other factors that can step in and screw things up for you both, either way it probably will get messed up. Or on the other hand, if you’re part of a lucky few, it may go great and may be a first step to a relationship. Honestly, there’s no telling, especially since you probably don’t know each other all that well yet. Or maybe nothing will happen as she may not want to or not feel comfortable with it. If that’s the case, again, you’ll know, and don’t press the issue.
• Be yourself. Don’t try to be the kind of guy that you somehow think she’s looking for. If you’ve got a fixation on Coltrane or Conway Twitty, cats or camels, cowgirls or car accessories, just put it out there. The kind of women you want are looking for a guy who’s interesting and has some eccentricities, not the average Joe with average vanilla tastes and interests. Just keep some things close to the vest…like if you’ve got a huge gun collection, you should probably keep that to yourself for awhile.
• Play hard to get. Women like a guy who’s self-possessed and confident (but not arrogant or self-absorbed— there’s a difference, and you should get to know it). Don’t act aloof, but don’t act like you’re desperate to land her in the sack, either.
• Make her feel appreciated. Give her a friendly hug at the beginning of the date (not a masher-and-grabber, just a friendly embrace) to break down physical barriers. Tell her how great she looks. Help her out of her coat, pull the chair out for her, open doors for her. It might seem old-fashioned but that kind of stuff still goes a long way.
• Be prepared. If you think there’s a chance you can wind up back at your place, make sure you’ve got fresh sheets with no bits or debris in ‘em, and make sure your smelly socks or dirty underwear are picked up and out of sight (at least). If it’s the her place/your place dilemma, follow your gut. You’ll know.
• Make her feel comfortable around you. Be casual. Be appreciative. Be the kind of guy that women want to be around.
All that having been said, tread carefully and be very sure that this is something you want to do. Especially if you think she might be a candidate for a longer-term relationship. This is something that can screw up a good thing very quickly, and you need to carefully weigh whether it’s worth the risk or whether you’d both be better off holding out for that sort of gratification.