How To Get Along With Your Girlfriends Friends

Dealing with Her Friend's

Few girls are willing to hang onto a guy when her friends are openly opposed to him. For this very reason, meeting the friends can be just as nerve-wracking as meeting the parents. Generally speaking though, it shouldn't be too difficult to woo (or make amends with) your girlfriend’s friends. After all, you aren't looking to become the Thelma to their Louise. You just want to maintain a level of civility and respect so the girls won't demand a dumping.

The first part of the ritual is, obviously, to meet her group of friends. If you've been dating your girlfriend for sometime and have yet to meet them, bring up the subject yourself. You might not be in a hurry to rush into the tiger's den, but consider that it's an unavoidable event if you plan to continue dating. Being proactive at least has the benefit of giving you the upper hand over both your lady and her friends. It helps demonstrate that you have an active, genuine interest in your girlfriend and her life. That's a great first impression to make. Relatedly, if your girlfriend is adamant about you meeting her friends, graciously agree rather than trying to get out of it. It should go without saying that constantly blanking her friends can easily lead to bad feelings.

Once you've finally met up, be prepared to answer questions. Avoid, however, letting this situation turn into a type of job interview. Be engaging. Ask her friends about their lives, interests, etc. Showing your interest in them as a person, not just some obstacle or accessory, will benefit your popularity. Try not to let this form of conversing turn into flirting since everybody in this group is definitely off-limits.

To follow on that same note, while her friends may be insanely hot, flirting with them will only get you into everybody's bad graces. If your girlfriend and her friends can't trust you to keep it in your pants with people you both know, they certainly aren’t going to be optimistic about your behavior with strangers. For similar reasons of suspicion, it's advisable that you try not to trash talk anybody during the gathering whether it's the waiter, your boss, or one of the friends. This might lead them to thinking that these sort of backhanded comments are common with you and, as a result, they'll worry about your sincerity.

After the meeting comes the follow-up or wrap-up depending upon how things went. If you find that you really don’t like your girlfriend’s friends, it's unfortunate but it doesn't need to be the end of the relationship. Simply keep your interaction with her friends to a minimum and remain a gentleman in such situations. Her friends are an important part of who she is and you shouldn't force her to give that up. Regardless of whether you love or hate her friends, treat them genially when you meet by chance as well. Simple actions such as asking about their lives, interests, etc. (again, but more specific this time) go a long way.

In the end, things should work out so long as you care about your girlfriend and treat all parties involved with a fair amount of respect.

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