9 Things You Shouldn’t Do On A First Date

9 First Date No Nos

We shouldn't even have to talk about this, but some guys just don't get it. Dates are awkward enough without adding to the situation.

Sometimes nerves get the best of us and we talk about things we know. But in reflecting we ask ourselves 'what the HELL were you thinking talking about your Ex?!' …or something along those lines.

We usually do things without thinking so don't forget to bring common sense along with you on your date, otherwise the night may be shorter than you would like. Here are 9 things you should avoid if you want to get anywhere with a girl.

1. Don't blather on and on about yourself.

First dates are fragile things, and you may feel the need to fill up the dead-air with a conversation. That's understandable. Just don't go on 'ad infinitum' about your house, your car, your job, your friends, etc. etc., or she's going to think you're a raving narcissist. It's got to be a two-way street, and she’s got to feel like you're interested in her. Engage her in the convo.

2. Don't get loaded.

Obvious, right? But sometimes people want to meet for drinks, and to soothe a case of nerves they knock down too many of 'em. This can lead to an awkward time, or an even-more-awkward next meeting. So keep some self-control, and don't.

3. Don't be rude to the waiter or bartender.

Nothing's going to make you look like more of a jerk than this. Show them the same sort of respect that you'd like to be shown yourself. And do'’t forget to tip them before you leave. You want her to know that you’re a decent man, so you need to be bigger than that, even if you go someplace where the service really was lousy.

4. Don't be stingy.

It doesn't mean you've got to burn up $300 on your first date, but even if you're a little short on cash, figure out a way to at least make it look like you're generous. And even if you're going Dutch... pick up the tab.

5. Don't be late.

For cryin' out loud, don't keep her waiting. It's rude and disrespectful and will automatically lose you points. This is something you might have found in dating tips from 50 years ago, and you know what? It still applies. Some things never change.

6. Don't be sloppy.

You don't have to be dressed to the nines, but don't show up wearing sweats and needing a shave. Dress like you at least put some thought into it, even if the date is just strictly casual.

7. Don't go on about your ex.

Nothing will blow you out of the water faster than that. It'll make you sound like a bitter loser and will send her running in the other direction, pronto! Refer back to rule #2 on this.

8. Don't be pushy.

Whether it's about being opinionated or argumentative in conversation, or where to go next, or what to do at the end of the night, don't be pushy about it. Nobody likes that. Be nice, let her make the decisions, but of course you can always give her subtle suggestions.

9. Don't email or text back and forth forever without asking her out.

This is a sort of 21st-century addendum to the first-date rules, but it can make you look wishy-washy and indecisive and it can put her off. If you're going to ask her out on a date, just do it instead of dithering around about it forever.

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